How Do You Know When Enough Is Enough?

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When is enough, enough?  I find I ask myself that question a lot as I continue my inner journey of self-discovery. What prompts people to finally make a change in their life? When does that critical point happen? Obviously, there are different considerations and motivations in making those changes.

For example, there's a different set of criteria in deciding to change shampoo brands compared to, say, changing your life's philosophy. The shampoo you've been brought up to use all of a sudden doesn't feel right. After scratching your head every now and then for a few days you decide to switch brands. Perhaps you did a little research and discovered oatmeal-based shampoos and soaps are usually better for your skin. Before you know it, the itching is gone. That's exactly what happened to me about 15 years ago.

Now let's take “enough is enough” to a different learning level. When does one decide to change one's outlook on life? You find yourself in a relationship that's going nowhere. You're not happy with your job. You're having health issues. You find you're stressed out most of the time, even when you're supposed to be relaxing. What does it take to make a change? What has to happen?

Reflecting on my own inner journey, I find it always comes back to the point when it was just too painful to stay where I was at. What started as a “comfort zone” to keep doing whatever I was doing, just because "that's the way it's always been," eventually morphed into the “UN comfort zone.”

There are periods in my past when I've been stuck in the “UN comfort zone” for years. During those years “something” didn't feel right. I would ask myself, which to me was my mind, "How can things that I'm used to doing all of a sudden not feel right?"

Reflecting, I can see how it was my inner guidance (that's a fancy name for Heart) prompting me to have the courage to explore within. At the time, I didn't realize how important it was to look deep within myself for some answers and guidance.

Taking responsibility for one's self entails accountability and courage. It means changing habits and routines. It means not doing the same things/mistakes that may have worked in the past but no longer serve you. It means taking a different direction. And that means to, knowingly, walk into the unknown. Our rigid minds don't like the unknown. Ego needs to know everything. Ego needs structure. Ego needs brain noise. Ego is in an Uncle Sam costume pointing his recruiting finger at you. The mind needs to know everything in advance so you can stay “safe.” What appears to feel like an isolating experience is very common for many souls. Again, doing the same things that may have worked in the past isn't helping your unhappiness. Yet people put up with the pain.

I've been there and done that, over and over and over…

My Own Story

Here's another real-life example of being pushed to the point of a major change. Somewhere in my thirties I developed digestion and assimilation issues, in regards to food. I tried every type of diet, with the exception of raw, that was known in the 1980s. Protein diets, eating according to my blood type—I tried them all with no satisfactory results. Years later when I was in my mid-fifties I was, once again, back in the doctor's office over the discomfort of digesting most foods.

He typed my symptoms into his laptop and remarked, "Well, it says here this medication is pretty good for what you have. Let's try this one."

"You mean, you've never worked with that medication before?" I asked.

"No. I'll be right back with a prescription and we'll give this a try."

I knew as soon as he left the examining room I wasn't going to use those pills. I had HAD IT!

That was my critical breaking point. It was too painful to stay where I had been.

I left the building with the prescription in hand and deposited it in the outdoor trash bin. I then drove to a good used bookstore, checked out the vegetarian section, and bought a couple of books about being a vegetarian and vegan. Adjusting my diet in such a simple fashion taught me the virtues of letting go. Just like most of the things we're programmed to learn in this 3D life, it was all backwards. To make a longer story shorter, I discovered it isn't about accumulating and adding anything. It wasn't about finding that magic pill to make things right. For me, it was about eliminating…letting go of…certain foods. All of the gas I was experiencing was primarily due to gluten and meat. When I eliminated wheat products from my diet the gas stopped. I cut down my sugar intake and eventually received more energy. I didn't feel bloated and stuffed when I stopped eating meat. When I discovered dairy products can generate more mucus and make me more prone to colds and flu, you guessed it, I eliminated a lot of dairy. And I dare say, I haven't had nearly as many colds as I used too.

All of these steps led to avoiding fast foods, processed foods, prepackaged foods (and yes, even those pre-cut organic celery and carrot sticks stacked on a styrofoam mini-platter wrapped in cellophane)…I just kept slowly eliminating things. I educated myself on organic vs. gmo. I learned how some corporate and medical establishments count on us being sick and tired all of the time. Corporate profits need to be made. All at the expense of our health and wellbeing.

Somewhere in my early years the expression "simplicity is the highest form of art" was ingrained in my head. So that's what I did with my diet. With fruits, vegetables, nuts, and seeds, I keep it simple. This is what works for me. After eating this way for quite a while my digestion has improved tremendously. I learned to stop looking “out there” for pills, health businesses, diets. I decided: "Enough is ENOUGH!" and I took responsibility for myself in a way I never thought I was qualified to do. Continually going to medical establishments became too frustrating and painful to keep relying on. If I hadn't taken my own health issues into my own hands, who knows where I would've ended up.

I had to change. Yes, change can be scary yet rewarding.

BEWARE: Change isn't for wimps!

Change is viewed as a treasured quality joyfully welcomed by those Heart warriors who experience life from their Hearts. To them, the unknown is exciting. It's viewed as an opportunity for new creations.

BEWARE: You know this--->Nobody is going to make the changes for you.

Take baby steps. Be patient with yourself. ALLOW yourself to make plenty of mistakes. And don’t beat yourself up when you do. It's because I allowed myself to take responsibility for my physical self and make some changes that I received the gift of Self Love. This was a choice from the Heart. Not my mind.


So give yourself a treat and think about it, "When is enough, ENOUGH?"


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